Life through my eyes......
Friday, December 02, 2005
Keep in on the Down Low
Well I'm on there (yea I'm at work and what, the bosses were aways so Honey must play) I am checkin out the guys that are in the age range of 26-29 just to see what is going on...of course I aint' hookin up with no one....later on that. So anyway I'm on there and I'm reading pages and I come across this guy whose name is DL _____. I'm like wow, with all the drama surrounding DL men now why would you put yourself on blast like that. Out of curiosity (yea it did kill the cat) I click on his name to read his page. He tells what he likes and all that jazz (talking bout lickin booty...ewwwww!!!!) I mean why do that you might as well eat someone's crap and I don't mean the stuff they say out of thier mouth I'm talking crap literally....anyway at the end of his page he's like notice the name so keep it quiet.
I'm like wow, he can't even own up to the fact that he is gay or bisexual. Then again who am I to judge.....I can't. To each his own. But I did wonder if he is messing with a sister out there who is in love with him, and thinks the world of him and he's doing this to her. It's fine that he isn't comfortable enough to "come out", but to involve someone else in the process is beyond questionable to me. I mean if you need to come to grips with who you are sexually, do you. Take time to sit down and evaluate. But by all means do it alone, don't confuse or hurt someone else just because you need to get off.
And believe me he didn't have this all on his page...that he was married and what not or even involved I just began to wonder all of this as I read his page. I tend to read between the lines or imagine things. What can I say I'm a creative mind and it wanders sometimes. I can only imagine how I would react if I found out that the man I loved, would ride or die for told me he was in love with a man and wanted to create a life with him. But had been sleeping with both of us at the same time.
Lord knows I would not react the way Terry did on Oprah...they probably would have had to pull me off of him and then take me back room to calm me down, cause a sister would go off. Then again why break my nails, furniture or his face when I can be calm, cool and collective and cry alone..which sad to say is what I sometimes do when confronted with problems. I play the mature one and cry later. So I don't know how I would react, the only thing I can say is that God knows what I can deal with and right now I'm hoping that it's never something like that.
But I do know that dating has become so much more serious now. I mean I'm gonna need to see your Drivers License, some references, go to your house to insure you aren't hiding a wife and kids, and also where you work....and your personal style...cause not only must we as women be on the up and up to stay on top of other women in this world but we must watch out for the man that might come along and make the one we are with realize that he is attracted to men, or would like to experiement with them.
Now trust and believe a sister has nothing against those of the alternative lifestyle..do what you do as long as you aren't trying to do it with me. To each his/her own. I just get so hurt at the fact that there are men out there (and I read in an advice column that women are doing it too) who haven't fully come into the know about who they are sexually. It's important to know what you like and what you don't like cause then I feel as if you have some grips on who you are as a person...then again it takes time for people to get to this point. But you best believe this sister will be on her p's, q's and toes all the time.
Posted at 11:41 am